|What if you want a simple life and your partner doesn't?|
You want to live simply. Your partner does not. What do you do when your simple living plan gets complicated by relationship stressors?
It almost seems a likely showdown since up to 80% of relationship splits occur primarily due to expectations surrounding money and how it should be spent.
Developing a frugal lifestyle was straightforward for Linda and I as we were more or less on the same page from the beginning of our relationship. But what if it wasn't that easy?
A comment was left on NBA recently that highlighted a reader's personal struggle with relationship complications surrounding simple living. They wrote:
"I am really struggling with my partners 'stuff' habit. I have personally been simplifying my life for a number of years now and all my possessions fit inside my small car. I realise that simplifying is a long process but the fact my partner doesn't even have the inclination to do so is somewhat frustrating.
I find it very hard to spend a lot of time at her house as the clutter mentally drains me.
We have been together 3 years and I have managed to put up with it for this long, but it is becoming to much. Any advise would be appreciated."
Communication is the key to any relationship, and talking about money is something that should happen early on to avoid complications further down the road. If we are gentle with each other, forgiving and loving, we can often work such things out. But not all the time.
Is it possible to convert someone to the simple life? How do we include a recalcitrant loved one in our dream of a simpler lifestyle, and convince them that "life is simple, and the simple thing is the right thing", as Oscar Wilde said?
Is this a irreconcilable difference? At what point does one decide to cut one's losses and move on? I am afraid I don't have many answers.
What would you advise? How is our simple living lover to proceed with his more prodigious partner?